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Boys that wear pink shirts and play with dolls.

I was on freecycle this evening when I saw a post for a free pink JJ Cole Bundle me.  I love these things but am to cheap to buy one.  So I hopped on this item by e-mailing the user to see if it was still available.  It was! If you recall, I have four boys and no girls.

The lady offering the item also offered me other things.  As we were talking, I mentioned he.  She was confused.  She reiterated the fact that some items were pink.  I told her that it was fine.  It’s just a bundle me.  As long as it’s not a dress.

She didn’t seem to mind either.  I know there are some people out there that think that pink is for girls and blue is for boys.  It is my firm belief that pink is not just for girls.  My son took his preschool picture is a dark pink shirt.  I bought it for a school event (it was a must that he wore a pink shirt) and figured he could wear it at any time.  This same son of mine also owns a pink DSI–something he asked for.

While we are dispelling the myths that certain colors relate to certain genders, I would also like to say that I believe the same principle applies to toys.  My second to youngest son owns two barbies-something we found at a flea market.  He liked them and I figured what the hell?  Who is he hurting?  After all, he can play with “action figures”.  I consider these dolls by a different name.  My second husband used to refer to them as dolls and I always laughed.

Anyhow, I know that I am probably one of the few that feels this way.  Sound off!!  What’s your opinion?

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Half Sibling vs Whole Siblings?

Children in Jerusalem.

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While visiting a friend, I met a group of children.  All of them are related by their mother, but have different fathers.  I know what this is like as my only sister has a different father than I do.  Growing up, my mother always told me that my sister was my sister–there was no “half” sister.  Thinking about it, there is no way she is my half sister.  She is a whole person, has grown up with me, and is the only sister I know.  However, these children spoke of their sibilings in terms of half.  I was introduced to one sibling, by another sibling.  The girl said “This is my half-brother ____________”.  I was completely shocked and stunned.  I thought they were all raised by their mother and couldn’t see how any mother, baring children, would allow her children to refer to their brothers and sisters as half.

After talking to a friend of mine that knows them better, she explained the situation: the mother raises some of the children, the grandmother raises some of them, and some of the children’s fathers raise them.  It kind of made sense to me, but I guess I just don’t agree with it.  Not that it is any of my business.

I have four children, two of which share the same father.  They all live with me and are MY children.  When they talk about their siblings, they refer to them as “my brother” or “my brothers”.  It would hurt my heart if I heard my children use the term half.  Even when I had a step-child, I would tell people he was my son.  He was and I didn’t feel it was necessary for anyone to know he wasn’t related to me biologically.  He would occasionally refer to me as his step-mom when speaking to some of his friends, which was fine.

I’d like to imagine that all of my children will be close-knit and loving enough to look at their emotional ties, rather than their biological ties.

 

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Taco Soup Recipe: A New Take on Chili

As a busy mother, I am always looking for quick and easy meals to make.  I like for them to be as nutritious as possible too.  While on my daily hunt for deals, I came across this recipe.  It probably isn’t the healthiest with the high sodium content, but the nutrition is there with the beans, corn, and tomatoes.  Cheese is a plus if you decide to throw in it.  Put it over brown rice and I think it is the perfect quick, weeknight meal.  Reminds me a lot of chili, but the author calls it Taco SoupCheck it out and let me know what you think!

 

 

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The Parenting Blues

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Image by Possum1500 via Flickr

Someone sent me this article and I really enjoyed it.  Here is my favorite quote:

 

“A baby is like the worst houseguest ever: endlessly demanding, keeping you up at all hours, needing to be fed and making a mess of the whole place.

And the little darling never leaves”.

It seems as if talking about the parenting blues is somehow taboo.  Many make it seem as if once you become a parent, you should always be happy, never stressed, and perfect.

This is simply not true.  Too bad more parents don’t express their frustration.  It would most likely make for happier parents.

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Moving with Children

I am wondering how difficult challenging it will be to move with four children.  The last time I moved, my ex-husband and I hired movers.  Although we had a small child at the time, we found time to pack up all the boxes and we were actually ready when it came time to move.

This time, it’s a different story.  There is me and the four boys, but I feel some stress about just how to get everything packed (and quickly) with a breastfeeding newborn.  I might actually have to pull out my breast pump and recruit some help with the baby, so I can sort through everything (clean house style) and pack whatever we are taking.

I’m also wondering if the whole moving plan will work.  I am planning on selling my house and moving into a friend’s house temporarily until we can find a new home.  Then, we will face the task of moving again.  Sounds like a  lot of work, huh?  I think it is.  On top of all of this, I am supposed to continue working and going to school.

One big problem with moving in with my friend is that she doesn’t have children and never has.  She is considerably older than me (about 21 years), so in essence, she could be my mother.  However, it is my personal belief that people that do not have children have a somewhat distorted view about raising children.  Even more so, everyone has different beliefs about parenting children and, with the age difference, we don’t see eye to eye on things.  Parenting is not as easy as it looks!

BUT, I am willing to deal with it to get out of this hell hole I live in.  I need a child friendly neighborhood, better school districts and a sense of community.  Where I live now, the children curse more than I do, steal, lie, cheat, and talk back.  My children are not allowed to play outside and as they get older, they wonder why.  With my oldest son, I’ve created a computer monster.  His interests include using the computer, using it some more, eating some ice cream, and then using the computer again lol.  I want a child that has more interests than that.

While I am nervous, I think it is time…time to make sacrifices and move.

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